Taking it personally..
Taking nothing personally has become a mantra by which I live my life…most of the time….
In Don Miguel Ruiz’s great little book: The four agreements, the author suggests that nothing that others do is because of you. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality, their dream. When we become immune to the opinions and actions of others life flows and needless suffering is avoided.
Being a victim of needless suffering and heartache has never felt like the truth but every now and then I find myself slipping effortlessly into this dark hole and I convince myself that this as direct result of the blatant thoughtlessness on the part of others…(my judgement*).
Number one pet peeve; people who let you down, say they’ll do something and not follow through. Why does this rattle my cage so much? As you read these words do you feel a sense of rigidity, tightness and inflexibility? Maybe because it’s the ego that is being rattled, fearful that it won’t be liked, loved, appreciated or any of the other million conditions and demands that it places on the outside world to provide.
In each and every one of us is another guidance system, a voice that will never scream, shout, throw tantrums or criticise us. Occasionally there may be a sense of urgency in how it guides us but never drama. An inner voice that is gentle, calm and above all: Loving. Our Higher Mind (Source, Divine, God… call it what you will) is always with us. We don’t need to be special or enlightened or manage to perform elaborate yoga poses to be worthy of its wisdom. We just need to listen.
Our Higher Mind seeks only love, peace, harmony and flow. Remembering that everything is in perfect Divine order, we can vow to forgive and let go of the need to be in control.Choosing to be kind, loving and flexible, treating everyone with love and respect …even through the ego traps that have the potential to cause such misery, will result in greater happiness and eliminate any feelings of resentment.
So, to every one who believes that they have not kept their promises…no worries my darlings, life is too precious to hold onto resentments…so you’re all off the hook. And just for good measure…I forgive myself too.
I sincerely hope no one will be rattling your cage today…but just in case ~ what would your Higher Mind have you do?
Love and Light
PS * Judgement = a place inside of ourselves that simply requires the Light.
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